Chelsea & Chris Revoir

Our son Ryder was born stillborn at 20 weeks on July 13, 2018. I had just went to my 20 week anatomy scan earlier that week, and my doctors assured me everything looked great, the baby was moving, and Ryder’s heartbeat was stronger than ever. I went into early labor later that same week after hearing the most dreadful words: there is no heartbeat.

Over a duration of about 6 months, after many doctor appointments, I was told that I have a genetic mutation called MTHFR. While it is not proven that MTHFR is the cause for Ryder’s stillbirth, it is a major factor. During our stay at the hospital, we were not given the option to use a Caring Cradle, a cooling device that allows families who endure stillbirth, to have more time. The staff told us that his body would quickly be changing and that we would need to contact family members immediately if they wanted to meet and hold our son.

My husband Chris and I took turns holding Ryder all night, talking to him, and holding his sweet fingers inside ours. After reaching out to a friend who recommended Metro Detroit Share, I decided to attend my first meeting. This group has been a major support for my husband and I. This group has become very near to our heart and we are so thankful. I hope that with this post, others are able to have the opportunity to use the Caring Cradle in order to give them the most precious gift of all...time.
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Metro Detroit Share has become a part of our life. This group offers monthly support group meetings, fundraises to help families with burial costs, cremations, and headstones. I am so thankful my husband and I found this group.